Heels, Boots, And The Human Need To Be Enough.

Whether you are wearing heels or boots, we all like to know we are doing okay.

When was the last time you felt truly accepted and validated?

Our fast-paced, chaotic world, where our calendars are packed, notifications never stop, and everyone seems to want something from us, it’s easy to overlook the quieter, more meaningful parts of life.

Relationships often take a back seat to deadlines, errands, and even exhaustion. We frequently rush conversations, skim over feelings, and assume we know what our partner or loved one is thinking. 

However, in the middle of all the noise, what we and many others are craving is acceptance, validation, and the simple human experience of being truly seen and heard. 

When was the last time you slowed down and truly looked and listened to the people who are important to you and your life?

Let’s take a look at this from both sides — from the perspective of a woman and the perspective of a man. Because while the need for acceptance and validation is shared, the way it's expressed (and received) can be surprisingly different.

From a Lady’s Point of View:

Many women value emotional connection, empathy, and being heard deeply. When she expresses her feelings, she’s often not looking for a solution; she’s looking for connection.

• Acceptance means she can be her full self without fear of being judged, fixed, or dismissed.

• Validation tells her that her feelings are seen, respected, and real.

  Without this, she may feel invisible or emotionally disconnected, even in a close relationship.

A woman might shut down emotionally if she senses her partner is not present or minimizing what she feels. A simple, “I can see how that would upset you,” can feel like a hug to the heart.

From a Gentleman’s Point of View:

Many men grow up being taught to suppress emotion, solve problems, and “toughen up.” For him, acceptance means he’s valued not just for what he does, but for who he is, flaws and all.

• Validation tells him, “You don’t have to perform to be loved. You’re enough.”

• It allows him to feel emotionally safe, to let his guard down, and to show vulnerability without losing respect.

When a man feels accepted and validated, he’s more likely to open up and engage emotionally, something women crave. But if he feels criticized or judged, he may retreat, feeling he’s “never enough.”

Your perspective of the world may make perfect sense to you; however, it may not land the same way for someone else.

That’s why flexibility, acknowledgment, and acceptance are so important in our relationships. When we let go of the need to be “right” and instead make space for someone else’s experience, we open the door to real, meaningful connection, the kind where both people feel truly seen, heard, and valued.

In the end, relationships thrive not on perfection, but on presence. Being present to listen, to validate, and to accept each other for who we truly are. Whether you're in heels or boots, showing up with curiosity instead of assumptions and with empathy instead of expectation can change everything.

So maybe today is the day to slow down, put the phone down, and offer someone the simple gift of your full attention. You might find that what you give comes right back to you.

If this blog resonates with you and you’re ready to create deeper, more connected relationships — starting with yourself, however, you don't want to go it alone, take comfort I knowing I can support you, inspire you, and celebrate with you as we take the journey together. Visit my website to learn more — I’d love to support you.

Together, we can strengthen the way you communicate, connect, and show up in your most important relationships.

Until next time, remember my favourite quote - "Your Smile ... Your Responsibility - Own it, Wear it, Share it.